I love words. Yet they are one of the most dangerous weapons we have in our arsenal. We use them to tear people down. In the process we think we are building ourselves up, but the opposite actually happens. I have said some angry and hateful things to people that I do not like. On purpose,and as I learn to be more like christ I look back and realize just how badly I need a saviour. I do have regret, I do feel remorse and have asked for forgiveness in order to heal in my own soul.
There have been times when I have said hurtful things to those that I love too. Those are the worst because you immediately regret it and then try to remedy what can not be unspoken. You can say sorry, you can buy them things to make up for it, but it doesn’t change what has been said.
Children look up to their parents and expect them to love them unconditionally. Unfortunately we are human and we let them down. We call them lazy out of frustration when they haven’t cleaned their room after being told for days on end. I am guilty of this, but I do turn around and apologize; realizing the gravity of my words, and most importantly I vow to watch what I say. I ask God to help me edify my children. I beg him for the strength to be the parent that deserves to raise these wonderful children in my care. I humble myself and in the process learn to be a better parent.
There are some parents; really broken people who just know how to tear down. They tell their own children that they will disown them if there is another custody case. They tell them that they are a disgrace. Then there is no apology. There is no ownership of the lifetime of damage that has been caused by one little world. How are we supposed to love people like this? How are we supposed to show compassion and caring for those who so readily destroy the heart and self esteem of a child. Their own child? This is my prayer. God show me how to forgive this person. When really all I want is for God to bring down his vengeance like a flood. Annihilation seems like a better option than forgiveness and redemption in this moment. One thing I love about God is that he will walk me through this, it will be born out in tears and desperate prayers on my face before him, and I will have grown and become more christlike in the process.
Words can be glorious too.
God created words, he is the word and with words he created us.
That is beautiful.
According to Business Insider the most beautiful word in the English language is Mother.
Mother. Now why do you think that word was voted on more than any other?
As the author explains its choice, Mother is… “an unglamorous word, yet one that conveys comfort and the deepness of human relationships.”
I am a Mother, and so as I ponder this as one of the most beautiful words in the english language; I feel honored. Yet it also shows the gravity of our job as parents. The importance of deep relationships and the impact we have on the world.
I am an encourager. I love to pray for people and encourage them in dark times. I love to use my words to build people up. One thing I have learned is that I actually get built up in the process. Sometimes the encouraging takes the form of trying to cancel out lies that have been spoken over other people as they struggle to find out why they are being unsuccessful, in life or relationships or connecting to God.
Telling your own children that no matter what people say to them they are wanted and loved and they are not a disgrace. That if they find their worth in God alone they will realize they will never be a disgrace.
Speak love to your children, because what is said to them, about them will take root and grow. Teach them the word, because in it they will find life and the truth to cancel out the many lies that will be spoken over them. Spoken in anger, spoken in fear, spoken in frustration, yet spoken to them just the same.
Like a broken plate can never be truly mended back to its original state. Once your words have created damage they can’t be undone.
In your mouth is the power to build up or destroy. Which do you chose?